An article written by Ju Eun Park
Truly look at yourself in the mirror and say.
“You are beautiful.”
Digital information era has started. There are lots of innovation and everything is becoming more and more comfortable. You can contact with your friend with your smart phone which is always accessible, you can post your daily life on SNS (Social Network Service), and you can view every documents if you search a word related on Google. How comfortable and good it is.
These benefits satisfied and upgraded quality of many people’s life, however, significant changes occur to lots of ‘June’ in the world.
A girl called June closes her book and lies down on her bed. ‘I need a piece of chocolate for refreshment.’ she thinks. With a Kitkat bar on a side of her hand, she starts to look through her Timeline on Facebook. She is on cloud nine. But smile on her face is slowly turning bad. On her timeline, many photos that look very happy appear.
‘Lovely day with Sally, ‘Happy happy’, ‘(Heart), Started dating with Troy Park ‘I went to museum with these guys (giggling emoji)’, ‘I love my new phone case~’, etc.
Everyone seems happy and satisfied. June wasn’t unsatisfied with her life, but since all of her friends became prettier and skinnier, she starts to blame herself. She finally stands in front of the mirror. She looks at herself on the mirror.
‘Why am I so..fat?’
‘Why am I so ugly..?’
She can’t stop thinking negatively and comparing her to the others. She got very depressed and threw her phone away, started crying.
‘What’s wrong with me, why only me betrayed? Why how much pretty and skinny a girl is change the quality of life?’
In this society, people are eager to be skinny. They exchange their health and diet. The number of teenageres doing one-food diet, skipping the dinner to be skinny is becoming larger and larger. According to J. Armstrong, S, more than 90 percent of girls (15 to 17 years) want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance, with body weight ranking the highest. ¹ Also obese boys and girls have significantly lower self-esteem than their non-obese peers and 80% of 10-year-old girls have answered that they have an experience in diet. Not only teenagers but also 90% of high school junior and senior women diet regularly and young girls are more afraid of becoming fat than they are of nuclear war, cancer, or losing their parents.
ISN’T THIS RIDICULOUS?
However, childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and quadrupled in adolescents in the past 30 years. People are getting fatter and fatter these days. Why? Let’s think simply. If people are getting more and more weight, that means they are eating more calorie than needed. Remaining calories are collected in our body as fat. If we get fat, we naturally make our mind to start diet by doing exercise or not eating. However the period of these kind of diet is always limited and this situation continues like a cycle. Then understanding why are we getting fat and fail on diet is important.
First, we cannot say it’s fully our fault. The world has developed and food near us is always accessible. Also types and kinds of food had developed and increased, too. If we don’t go to the past, there is no method to solve this problem. We can buy less food but if we go out, then it would be no use.
Second, it’s because we want to taste the food. Delicious food can make people feel happy in short period. If we manage and control the amount of food we eat, we can have both happiness and diet, but it’s not easy to control appetite.
And third, we need to concentrate on the pattern we eat. People who eat to fill emptiness by food, and stop feel worried or nervous are increasing recently. Not simply exercise and dietary control is the solution but we need to diet our emotion and feelings.
‘ARE YOU REALLY HUNGRY?’
When we are having a meal, there is a time when we feel full. Even though we feel full and satisfied, normal people finish their food because they feel they need to finish the dish. During the weekend when we are watching TV or Youtube video, we feel something empty so we eat some snacks or refreshments between meals. But let’s reflect ourselves. Did we really feel starved because we were hungry or starved feeling and emotion?
If you are using ‘eating’ as one of solutions to fill the emptiness or substitute melancholy, annoyance, sadness, that might be really comfortable and easy. However, you cannot really get rid of sadness and negative feeling on your mind. Also that can lead you go on binge and feel guilty or gain weight. So reducing the deficiency of emotion by eating is not a good idea.
Then why don’t you try to think and ask yourself? ‘Why do I still want to eat even though I am full now?’ It’s a process checking your real emotion and condition. If you apprehend that you don’t need to eat anymore, you would be able to understand your condition and decrease appetite naturally.
If you always want to eat something, then you need to look through your emotions and feelings. Writing down your emotion in detail is one of the methods that you can both examine your feeling and decrease eating. ‘How do I feel now?’ When you first try writing your feelings, that won’t be easy. However you have to be familiar with looking in yourself and be able to communicate with yourself.
Putting an appetite down is not a short course diet, but being honest in your life. Eating the amount that you only need can be a good and healthy habit.
In this video 2, Ms. Russell changes her dress into long comfortable skirt. She tries to reduce the prejudice about appearance. And she tells the image and photos that posted at the front pages of magazine are not her. Every photos are edited and photoshopped. Which means a perfect body that media suggesting us are very unrealistic. She mentions that appearance can’t be everything of own life, and that is not the thing that always make her happy.
“And here’s me today. And I hope what you’re seeing is that these pictures are not pictures of me. They are constructions, and they are constructions by a group of professionals, by hairstylists and makeup artists and photographers and stylists and all of their assistants and pre-production and post-production, and they build this. That’s not me.”
According to one research in mental health centre in America, Barbie doll cannot walk ordinarily if she is a real human. The research team suggested that the possibility real woman who looks very alike a Barbie doll would exist is 1 over 2.4 billion.
In our life, we are exposed to too many media and advertisements. Even though most of fashion magazine and brand companies are using Photoshops and making the model unrealistic, those images are published very naturally and exists in our life. Even though we know that they are not real, we do unhealthy diet and unsatisfy with ourselves. Even though we are using Photoshop app before posting a photo on SNS, we think the others wouldn’t use the app.
Pretty and skinny.
Why did we become so cruel with ourselves? Try to look at yourself in the mirror and say, you are beautiful. Don’t compare with others. Try to be honest with your emotion, and do healthy diet. Try to encourage and love yourself truly. Appearance was, is, and will never be everything.
You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known and even that is an understatement. (F. Scott Fitzgerald)
J. Armstrong, S. (2013) Statistics on body image, self esteem & parental influence. Available at: http://www.heartofleadership.org/statistics-on-body-image-self-esteem-parental-influence/ (Accessed: 26 May 2016).
Russell, C. (2013) Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model. Available at: http://www.ted.com/talks/cameron_russell_looks_aren_t_everything_believe_me_i_m_a_model#t-351396 (Accessed: 26 May 2016).